relationship

Use a shared, co-created vision for the future, not just drifting along and hoping you end up in the same […]

Use a united front with your kids. Stop letting them play you against each other. The Two Co-Pilots Your kids

Use a “we’re a team against the problem” approach, not a “you’re the problem” approach. Sitting on the Same Side

Use radical honesty delivered with kindness, not “brutal honesty” used as a weapon. The Surgeon’s Scalpel vs. The Butcher’s Cleaver

Use scheduled arguments to contain conflict, not spontaneous blow-ups that ruin your day. The Boxing Ring vs. The Street Fight

Use self-awareness to understand your triggers, not blaming your partner for your reactions. The Landmine in Your Yard For years,

Use a weekly marriage meeting to discuss logistics and feelings, not just assuming you’re on the same page. The Pilots’

Use a phone call to build rapport, not just endless, low-effort texting. The Note Passer vs. The Hallway Conversation Endless

Use emotional intimacy as the foundation, not just physical intimacy as the goal. Building the House vs. Just Visiting the

Use “I feel” statements to express your experience, not “You always” statements to assign blame. The Flashlight vs. The Mirror